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self-teaching, or get enrolled in the nationwide seminars and learn how
to teach Nonviolent Communication in your community, your schools, and
your home. It really is an eye-opening concept that could make
everyone's life a LOT better!
Here is an excerpt from Chapter One of
"Nonviolent Communication" by Marshall Rosenberg PhD:
NVC is founded on language and communication skills that strengthen
our ability to remain human, even under trying conditions. It contains
nothing new; all that has been integrated into NVC has been known for
centuries. The intent is to remind us about what we already know—about
how we humans were meant to relate to one another—and to assist us in
living in a way that concretely manifests this knowledge.
NVC guides us in reframing how we express ourselves and hear others.
Instead of being habitual, automatic reactions, our words become
conscious responses based firmly on an awareness of what we are
perceiving, feeling, and wanting. We are led to express ourselves with
honesty and clarity, while simultaneously paying others a respectful
and empathic attention. In any exchange, we come to hear our own deeper
needs and those of others. NVC trains us to observe carefully, and to
be able to specify behaviors and conditions that are affecting us. We
learn to identify and clearly articulate what we are concretely wanting
in a given situation. The form is simple, yet powerfully transformative.
|We perceive relationships in a new light when we use NVC to hear our own deeper needs and those of others.
NVC replaces our old patterns of defending, withdrawing, or attacking
in the face of judgment and criticism, we come to perceive ourselves
and others, as well as our intentions and relationships, in a new
light. Resistance, defensiveness, and violent reactions are minimized.
When we focus on clarifying what is being observed, felt, and needed
rather than on diagnosing and judging, we discover the depth of our own
compassion. Through its emphasis on deep listening—to ourselves as well
as others—NVC fosters respect, attentiveness, and empathy, and
engenders a mutual desire to give from the heart.
Although I refer to it as “a process of communication” or a “language
of compassion,” NVC is more than a process or a language. On a deeper
level, it is an ongoing reminder to keep our attention focused on a
place where we are more likely to get what we are seeking. Read More
I am going to order it for myself, as it appears to
have the answers I've been seeking most of my life. I hope you'll
take a look, too. (NO, he doesn't have an affiliate program - I
just really admire the work he's doing. :-)
Peace & Prosperity, Donna